Are you the Plus One, or do you have a Plus One? Couples often make their debuts at weddings, so getting that Plus One invitation from the Bride and Groom is exciting! The Bride and Groom are planning and anxiously awaiting their wedding, and so are you. We have compiled 10 ways for you to make the best first impression as the Perfect Plus One.
1. Respond Promptly
Respond (RSVP) to an invitation. Out of respect for the host, do so promptly! The Bride and the Groom need to have their guest count finalized as soon as possible. You do not want to demonstrate rudeness by requiring them to call you to find out if you are planning to attend.
2. Dress Appropriately
The dress code for the event should be at the bottom of the invitation. Ask your date if this was listed. If you are not sure what to expect, any Southern woman will tell you, it’s always better to be overdressed than underdressed. Dress to impress! You will not go wrong looking your best!
3. Bring a Gift?
The person to whom the invitation was addressed will undoubtedly be giving the bride and groom a present, but ask your date if you need to bring one as well. Advanced notice will keep you feeling comfortably prepared. If you do choose to bring a gift, and you do not know the couple well, a gift card to a popular restaurant is always appreciated.
4. Follow Directions
The Bride and Groom have carefully planned the things they would like their guests to do – even those who are guests of the guests. Sign the guest book. Take a photo at the photo booth. Find your assigned table and be seated when you are invited to do so.
5. Make an Introduction
Smile! Then be courteous and extend your hand to introduce yourself should your date forget to do this. You want to try to be an active member of conversations, certainly if the topic is of interest to you. If your date is in the wedding party, you may find yourself waiting during photo sessions. Don’t retreat! Introduce yourself to the other plus ones because there are probably others! Stay in the moment and enjoy yourself.
6. Just Dance
You are an invited guest, and if your date wants to dance, go for it! No one on the dance floor is a pro, and you don’t want to risk looking bored by sitting on the sidelines all night having no fun. Mix, mingle, participate!
7. Know Your Limits
Do not overindulge. If you are feeling like you’ve had enough to drink, switch to club soda before you do or say something you would regret. Do not feel pressured to keep drinking. The bartender is happy to make an Alcohol Free (AF) version of any cocktail.
8. Be a Good Sport
If the wedding planner asks you to blow bubbles, hold a sparkler, toss petals, or play a tambourine, do it! Jump into the bouquet or garter toss with enthusiasm! If the DJ asks for all the guests to crowd the dance floor for a Twist contest, give it your best! You will have a much better time if you participate.
9. Show Graciousness
If there are favors, take one – but only one. If there are signature drinks, give one a try. If you really do not like cake, or you are seriously watching your sugar intake, be sweet about saying, “No thank you” to the wedding cake. Show graciousness to the other guests, the vendors, the servers, and of course the Bride and Groom. Remember to thank them for inviting you!
10. Be Kind
Although this seems obvious, sometimes kindness is forgotten. Mother always reminds us, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all!” The event is most often a reflection of the bride’s style or the bride and groom themselves. You may not like the decor. You may think their events are silly. You may not prefer the music selections. You may not even plan to get married yourself. Whatever negative thoughts you may have, keep them to yourself! This is not your day; be an excellent guest and be kind, always!
Venue || Ships of the Sea Maritime Museum
Planner/Coordinator || Anna Swanson of Swanson Signature Events
Photographer || Jenna Davis Photography
Caterer || Mark Scomo of Savannah Event Catering
Florals || Danyel Winters of Enchanting Flora Designs
Hair and Make-up || 40Volume Salon and Spa
Rentals || Ranco Event Rentals
Ceremony Music || Kristin King of New Arts Ensembles
Reception Music || All About You Entertainment
Lighting || JLK Events
Stationery || Minted
Bridal Gown || Wedding Angels
Tuxedos || The Black Tux